Keeping the peace when dealing with someone else’s clutter can be a little tricky. My No 1. Tip Sit down and share a cup of tea

It’s amazing what you can sort out when we share our thoughts and feelings and talking about clutter is one way to let others know, their clutter is  affecting you.

I met first Debbie at one of my workshop, she told me

My daughter Kate left home 10 years ago, she still has boxes of stuff that are talking up space I would like to use for my craft work supplies

After attending my workshop Debbie applied No 2 R Responsible, and invited her daughter around for a cup of tea and a chat. Debbie explained how she felt about the boxes and what she would do with the space once it was cleared, she suggested they open the boxes together….. you are never going to guess the outcome. On opening the boxes Kate said

“Oh MUM I don’t know why YOU are hanging onto these, get rid of them!!!”

It took a conversation and one cuppa and Kate took responsibility of her unwanted STUFF and Debbie was rewarded with space for craft work supplies.

Tips to spark a positive engaging conversation

Clutter naturally occurs over our lifetime, from pre marriage, partnerships, children, grandchild, through illness and change of career, in other words through the ups and downs that life throws at us. Did you know “4 in 10 Australians surveyed say they feel anxious, guilty or depress about the clutter in their homes” and women are much more concerned about clutter than men. Source Stuff Happens The Australian Institute

  1. Keep the language simple and uncomplicated
  2. Set the mood for a positive conversation
  3. Reduce distractions
  4. Engage everyone affected by the clutter
  5. Be non-judgmental
  6. Pay attention to each other’s remarks
  7. Stay on topic, don’t jump to irrelevant topics
  8. Give others the opportunity to reply
  9. Use supportive body language
  10. Talk about your life and space without clutter and the benefits it will bring to your life

Things to avoid

  1. Using boring language
  2. Don’t use insulting language
  3. Flat speaking tone
  4. Talking over and dominating the conversation
  5. Don’t woffle!!
  6. Don’t rush the conversation

No 2 Tip Listen 

We speak about 200-250 words per minute and can listen at 300-500 words per minute? With that in mind listening and talking about clutter and how it affects you it is good start.

Please note: Eco Organiser® is not a psychologists, physicist, we don’t offer marriage counselling or parenting advice, we help you create time and space in your life without costing the earth.

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